It will come as no surprise to you if you are the parent, teacher, guardian, or steward of one of the new children that many of the old ways of parenting do not work. We have entered a new time when working with children requires a high level of authenticity as well as an awareness of the whole child including the soul/spirit. Some of the attributes that are being displayed by virtually all of the new children include the ability to see, sense, feel and read the Truth in the energy fields of another along with greater sensitivity in their own fields. It is as if they can read you like a book, they can see through your thick skins, but they do not have skins. One who wrote to me describes humans as like oranges. The new children have no peel, while others of us have varying degrees of thickness to our peel. I really like that analogy, because it helps us to see why this world has not been easy for the children, why they do the things they do and where we are all headed.

Recently a friend of mine with a new baby was telling me that he noticed something that surprised him. My friend was angry with the baby, and when he turned to the baby, the little one’s face distorted in fear and upset. He had assumed that the baby saw a look on his face that caused this reaction. I explained that even if the anger didn’t show in his face, the baby would have gotten the message because the new children read the energy field of another better than most of us read faces. This baby saw something upsetting that he had not seen before, and it didn’t feel good. This is where the authenticity comes in, and I cannot stress this enough. These children know when you are lying because the words coming out of your mouth don’t match what they see and feel. When they can talk, they will tell you this in their own words. They will even remind you when you are lying to yourself, so to speak. In other words, you say you are happy to be going to visit your mother, but your energy field tells a different story. To the children, this is a lie, this is not integrity. This does not create trust.

If you are having any problems with your children continually misbehaving, lying, not listening, disobeying, exhibiting unusual amounts of anger, check yourself and others in your life. If the child lies often, find out who else is lying and why the child feels the necessity to lie. Is he not being offered choices when appropriate? Are you telling him what to do more often than is necessary? Is his opinion valued? When you offer the child a choice, do you then honor the choice, or do you question it? I promise you that whatever behavior the child is exhibiting, you can find its source in the interpersonal relationships in the home. Yes, these children are also reflecting some of the chaos, the war, and the rage in humanity’s collective consciousness, but if you have cleared your issues, you will be able to help your child come to a greater understanding and have more comfort in the world. If you have repressed anger, you may have a child who is expressing anger. You see, you can hide it from yourself, but you cannot hide it from the new children.

If you have good communication within the family and the children feel safe, they will tell you when you are not in integrity, and this may happen as young as two years old. I often tell the story of my two-year-old twin daughters who looked directly at me one day and asked, “Mama, are you trying to do guilt?” It stopped me dead in my tracks. In fact, I WAS trying to do guilt, but I wasn’t even consciously aware of it. They will soon be 21 years old, and they will still remind me when I get off the track. They are not rude about it, they simply say it and go about their business. In this way, they can be great teachers and, in fact, have been for me.

The new children are a reminder to do what is called our “inner child” work. They are a call to finding new, effective methods of parenting; methods that in all likelihood were not used in your childhood. Use this opportunity to parent your inner child with integrity, compassion, truth, and warmth. If you have anger issues it is time as a parent to deal with them. These children respond to you when you truthfully say that you are confused, upset, whatever. Don’t pretend you aren’t angry when you are.

If your child is in a classroom where the teacher is not authentic, it may virtually be toxic to the child. These children simply cannot, will not, thrive, or even stay in situations lacking in integrity. They will prefer living in the street. They will not participate because it is against their own personal Truth.

Speaking of the personal truth of the children, encourage them every chance you get to follow their inner guidance. My father often told me to follow my intuition, which he called common sense, with the words, “You already know the answer to that. Use your common sense!” In that way, he validated me and I matured, trusting my instinct, my intuition, and my gut. Thank you, Dad, wherever you are.

Many parents don’t realize that their children see colors, shapes, beings, and auric fields around people, plants, and rocks. When my daughters were 11 or 12, I had just read a book on auras and was looking at the trees up on Orcas Island in Washington State to see if I could see any. Rachel and Maria asked me what I was doing, so I told them. They got strange looks on their faces and said, “You mean the colors and light around the trees, which are also around people?” “Yes,” I said slowly, “do you see that? And why didn’t you tell me that you can see that?” “Because we didn’t know that you didn’t know. We thought everybody could see like that!” Well, knock me over with a feather! The moral of the story? I began to talk to them more about the unseen world and as a result, I learned much that I did not already know, as well as validated their experience. Maria once said, “Mom, just ask the question. I probably know the answer, but you have to know the question!” Wow, now that is wisdom that I have put to use in many areas of my life.

Tell the truth, be authentic, be open, listen, pay attention and clean up your baggage. So very easy to say, not always easy to do. Begin now and ask for help from your child, your inner guidance, and the divine self of your child. Believe me, it will come.

Until next time, love and blessings to all, Sharyl